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An old boyfriend of mine called me the other day to see if I would be interested in an opening at his company. The job sounds amazing. I’m qualified and hungry for a new challenge. Although there is zero chance of anything ever happening between my ex and me, my new man is outraged that I’m even considering this offer. How can I put his mind at ease, yet still proceed with this excellent career opportunity?
My dear Ambitious,
What governs the laws of love? It’s that lousy green eyed monster called jealousy. That destroyer of trust, that resentful malcontent that is rearing its miserable head. Your boyfriend is quite aware that your ex is in a position of power and can offer you something fabulous that he can’t. The more outraged he becomes about your job offer, the more insecure he is about himself and your feelings for him. Convince him that he’s your one and only. If he remains unconvinced, accept the career opportunity and dump the guy. If the job doesn’t pan out after a month or so, you can always go back to the boyfriend with the magic words all men love to hear. “You were right as usual, honey.”
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Sara Waxman is an award-winning restaurant critic, best-selling cookbook author, food and travel journalist and has eaten her way through much of the free world for four decades, while writing about it in books, newspapers and magazines. She is the Publisher/Editor in Chief of DINE and Destinations magazine.